She’s two and a half and heading full speed toward three years old.
She’s on the brink of everything.
Just before Christmas, she helped put up lights and pine garland on her porch.
She couldn’t stop saying her favorite new word: “energy!”
By the time she arrived at our house for the Christmas holiday, Lydia was still talking about energy,
but she was also showing signs of the “terrible twos.”
It didn’t help that she was getting over a fever.
She wanted her mommy for every transition.
She also melted down a few times into a furious puddle on the floor.
Granddad and I wondered whether we would have what it takes to care for her alone at her house in just one month.
Would she welcome us?
Or would she cry all weekend, desperate for her parents?
In preparation for our visit,
her mommy and daddy explained that they were going to be with their friends far away,
and that grandma and granddad would be there with her for two nights.
When we arrived to pick her up at daycare, she immediately asked for mommy instead.
But no meltdown.
When we said the magic words “toy library,” she perked up immediately.
We took her to her favorite place and watched her play with her friends.
She climbed all the way to the top of the ladder and sat there, surveying her kingdom.
The next day, when we took her back to day care,
she was ready to say good-bye to her parents.
“Have a good time with your friends!” she said.
Were there some tears during the next two days? Sure.
Was she ever inconsolable?
She’s on the brink of becoming more independent,
of being able to trust that mommy and daddy will come back
and of climbing up, up, up, by herself
to age three, past potty training, surveying new challenges.
singer/song writer Carrie Newcomer, have collaborated on.
I’m getting ready to speak to a local group of seniors.
In the first chapter of this book, Parker explains how he got the inspiration for the book’s title
from our mutual friend Courtney Martin.
Courtney is a young author/blogger/activist whose lyric essay about her daughter Maya
inspired Parker to connect the toddler stage of life
to the entering-old-age stage, a brilliant juxtaposition,
especially if you happen to be a septuagenarian grandma of a toddler.
Here’s Parker in Chapter One of his book:
Courtney says that her daughter “approaches the word with only one, giant, indiscriminate expectation: delight me.” Like sixteen-month-old Maya, I want to approach the world with only one expectation as I close in on eighty. Because I am old enough to know that the world can delight me, my expectation is not of the world but of myself: delight in the gift of life and be grateful.
Thank you, Lydia, for being my teacher of the same, beautiful truth.
Thank you, Courtney and Parker, for connecting these two perilous and exhilarating stages of life to each other.
Let’s go over the brink together!
What brink are you on? Would love to hear a story, catch a glimpse of your world.